Are you turning 30 but are anxious because all your peers are in a long-term relationship, engaged, or married? Worry not, as being single in your 30s has amazing advantages. We’re on a mission to show you what they are.
We Have Our Own Pace
Remember that, while still being a student, you had your own pace of learning and progressing? Were you able to speed up the process of acquiring knowledge? To some extent, perhaps, you could spend days and nights cramming for tests and exams. Yet, the great majority of information that you forced yourself to learn would just vanish the moment you left the classroom.
The same applies to life and relationships. You can’t force yourself to be with someone who’s not quite a good fit for you. Such a romance will end sooner or later. What’s even worse, you could end up traumatized due to being in an unhealthy relationship. As a result, it might take you a lot of time, effort, and visits to a shrink to recover from it.
Keep in mind one of the essential life tips: everyone has their own pace in life. There are processes you simply can’t speed up, and relationships are one of them. You’re 30 and still single, while all your friends have partners? That’s perfectly fine. There’s nothing wrong with it.
Stop comparing yourself to others. We all grow and learn at a different pace, and that’s okay. Life is a journey, so enjoy it. Don’t obsess over being single. Instead, make the best out of your single life.
You Can Spend More Time for Your Career
This might sound trashy and like a quote from a cheap self-help book, but to find a great partner, you need to be the best version of yourself. Give it a thought for a second. Would you accept to be with someone who constantly fails in their career, has some past traumas, or simply wants to fuck around? Certainly not.
People who are in their 30s and still single have their own reasons for not being in a relationship. They might want to work on themselves or their life goals, and it’s no one’s business to nose around. Thus, there isn’t a logic in why you must start a family before you turn 30.
Rather than desperately looking for a partner, focus on yourself. Work on your goals. Single people choose not to be in a relationship so that they can devote themselves exclusively to their careers. There’s nothing more exhilarating than knowing you’re thriving in your career. When you’re successful and financially secure, people will enter your life when you least expect them.
You Don’t Get Stressed
How many times have you listened to your friends raging about their spouses, boyfriends, or girlfriends? Admit it — after hours of tuning in to their rants, you certainly thought, “thank God I’m single.”
No one can deny that relationships and marriages are stressful, particularly the latter. Problems may start emerging literally from anywhere. Financial issues, illnesses (God forbid), neglecting a partner or children, cheating, toxicity, etc., lead to constant tension and scenes. Even if everything seems to go smoothly at the beginning, a little drama here and there is inevitable.
However, a single woman or man knows no drama. They aren’t obliged to deal with people or force relationships that are obviously on the verge of death, i.e., breakup. This is yet another pro of being single in your 30s — you can easily walk away if you feel unwanted or don’t want to commit. Most importantly, no one can disturb your perfect peace of mind.
You Only Focus on Building Yourself
When you commit yourself to someone, you only want them for yourself, right? And so do they. It comes as no surprise that you want to spend all your time with them. This, in turn, means that you have very little time for yourself. In the long run, the chances are that you will have to abandon all your hobbies and devote every minute to your partner.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with this. Yet, as time goes by, you might start missing your pastimes. Furthermore, you may feel the need to learn a new skill or take up a new hobby. If you have a demanding partner or even a family, this won’t be much feasible. Aside from work, you’re likely to assign all your time to them.
Unlike people who are committed, singles have loads of free time at their disposal. They can do everything they like — go to the gym, take up yoga, enroll in new courses, learn languages, etc. Being single lets you work on and improve yourself, gain new knowledge, and thus become the best possible version of yourself.
You Will Not Have Many Responsibilities
You absolutely despise it when your boss assigns extra responsibilities to you at work, don’t you? Normally, no one likes to take on additional duties when they don’t have to.
The same may happen when you’re in a relationship. At some point, you’ll need to undertake your partner’s obligations. Be it grocery shopping, doing the laundry, vacuuming, or dusting, there will always be one side that’s constantly avoiding the chores.
These are just some of the everyday situations. There might be some extreme cases no one could ever think of. Normally, you will have to jump in and cover up for them all.
This is just another answer to the question, “Why is being single in your 30s okay?” You’re not responsible for anyone but yourself. Plus, you don’t have to take on anyone’s duties or obligations but your own. Lastly, you’re free to do whatever, wherever, and whenever you want to.
You Get to Enjoy and Party All You Want
Imagine the following situation: you adore living an active life, ranging from partying every other weekend to taking active holidays, which, again, may include parties in its itinerary. All of a sudden, you get into a relationship with a partner who’s the total opposite. Will it be able to make a compromise? Not really, at least not without sacrificing some of your preferences.
Singles in their 30’s have the opportunity to live and enjoy their life to the fullest. They won’t have to let go of their hobbies and interests. They have all the time in the world for themselves, and they can fill it however they want.
Feel like going to or throwing a party? Not a problem. Wanna spend the weekend outside the town with your friends? Sure, why not. Saw an ad for a trip of a lifetime on an exotic island? Find your passport and pack your bags.
Being single in your 30s is not a curse — it’s a blessing. The world is your oyster waiting for you to explore it. Don’t feel devastated for not having a partner, but embrace your life and enjoy it!